greengirl asked:
I would like to tell guests in our wedding website that in addition to our Crate and Barrel registry, some of our favorite stores are Whole Foods, Target, and Amazon. Is it appropriate to insinuate wanting a Whole Foods (grocery store) gift card for our wedding present?
I would like to tell guests in our wedding website that in addition to our Crate and Barrel registry, some of our favorite stores are Whole Foods, Target, and Amazon. Is it appropriate to insinuate wanting a Whole Foods (grocery store) gift card for our wedding present?
I don’t think so but I know some people who wouldn’t find that appropriate.
I would get you that gift card simply because it’s what you both will use (so I know my money is going somewhere important) and I think it’s really cute to include that
Yes, I believe it is certainly as appropriate as the
wedding gift registry at any other stores…
No not at all, in fact its a practical gift your letting people get for you. face it. Some of us are not all on the ball and by the time we get around to the registry if we don’t know the people that well (not close family) the good items are picked over and the really expensive stuff is left. At that point I just give cash anyway so if you stated gift certs at a certain place that would lead me to get you more things and yes I think its a very original and good idea. In addition if your asking for grocerries the older folks would probably get you bigger gift certs to there.
Many people, myself included, like to give a gift that will last be meaningful. Good silverware, china or linens type stuff.
I think it’s okay to tell anyone who asks, and let your friends Family tell anyone who asks them for a gift suggestion. In my experience, many people just give cash or cheques anyway and they are always welcome.
Whole Foods is the coolest place for shampoos, bags, and soaps and so forth. It’s not always about the food so in this case it can go.
In this day and age especially with the economy and such, I believe it’s yours for the asking, and let me tell you, I’d personally get you a gift card at one of these places. I mean who really needs 4 candlesticks, and fine china if it’s going to sit in the buffet next 20 years.
If you get money then you can just spend the money at the store of your choice. You really can’t tell people what to get you.
NOTHING wrong with that – in fact I gave my friend a gas card for her college graduation. Maybe I’ll give my niece a grocery store card for her birthday… it’s absolutely something you’ll use and it’s practical… good idea.
no i think it’s rather cute for a shower to have people – instead of wrapping their gift to use a bag from the grocery store with an item for your pantry. however it IS tacky to do that if you are already living together.
for the wedding – just register at those places – they might get the hint. i always give a grocery store card – they have to have something to eat when they come home broke from the honeymoon!
Yes, it is called a gift for a reason, it is what they want to give, not what you want. Your friends will know what you want.
Never, ever, ever, ever, ever ask for a gift of any kind – including grocery store gift cards. Asking for – or insinuating as you call it – a gift is in the absolute worst taste. Terribly tacky. Don’t do it.
You shouldn’t expect gifts – period. The people you asked to your wedding are guests – not hostages to be ransomed with a gift.
I think asking for a grocery gift card is fine, they do sell other things at the grocery store besides food, and as much as setting up a household costs these days, I think it will be fine.
If you are worried that people will think wrong of it, tell people money is fine, and use it at the grocery. You can tell people you are buying your collection of spices for cooking. A approved answer, because that is one of the first things an old fashioned bride would have done. And one of the first things I did when I moved out on my own.
When people ask you what you want, tell them the truth about what you want, and thank them for asking. Arm your Mom, the MIL, and the bridesmaids and close female relatives with a list of things you want. People often ask them, guests want the present they buy to be a surprise, so they hit up the maids and the relatives for info. And asking for a Walmart or Target card might seem tacky, but it is practical good sense when you are not rich, and setting up a household. Go price mops, buckets, Comet cleanser, dust cloths and polish, vacuum cleaner bags, and on and on. Make a list of everything you need to clean a house with, add it up, and if you can get it all for less than $150 bucks, you did not get everything you need. It makes sense to get it as cheap as you can, why pay more?
And again, ask for money, tell people that it is for setting up your household, and that should do it.