carrie c asked:
For example say you get a set of towels….three or four gifts later you open more towels….how do you gratefully and graciously say thank you without showing the disappointment of getting the same thing over and over……Because of all the blended families there are three different showers for my fiance and I and we’re curious how to thank someone for a gift we already received from someone else.
For example say you get a set of towels….three or four gifts later you open more towels….how do you gratefully and graciously say thank you without showing the disappointment of getting the same thing over and over……Because of all the blended families there are three different showers for my fiance and I and we’re curious how to thank someone for a gift we already received from someone else.
Why would it dissapoint you? It’s a gift, it’s not like you paid for it. Maybe you should of done a gift registry instead to prevent that.
All I would say would be oh wow we got lots of towels to last us a while I would appreciate it and laugh and then move on with no grudges..
say you can never have enough towels!!! Now I have a set for our other bathroom too!!! and give a big warm smile!!!
You laugh it off enjoy yourself! Of all the bridal showers/weddings I’ve been to, I know there is an off chance I could duplicate a gift it might be returned. Oh well. Guests understand want you to enjoy the gift – be it the towels or store credit!
If they are present you smile the brightest smile you have and say, Wow this is great! We can always use a back up!
Trust me, after having several showers for my daughter even the slightest look of disappointment was noticed. She wishes she got towels, instead she got a hideous leopard print teddie with teal blue accents that the gift giver thought would be perfect for her since the teal blue matched her wedding colors!
i would be thrilled to get a lot of towels, but if you for example get two toasters or something that would be altogether impractical to have multiple of… you should just smile, chuckle and say… i guess i got a back up now… then return one of them and get something else… then when you write your thank you notes… be sure and say… well i want to thank you for the toaster, and as i got two of them and didn’t need two, i returned one and got —- instead. but don’t tell either giver which toaster you traded. most people should understand that you don’t need two of some items.
you are lucky you got anything. You can say wow we will not have to buy towels until our 10th anniversary.
I really need two (or a lot) of these! That’s the best thing to say, even if it’s not 100% true. After all, who doesn’t need extra towels, that match no less? If it’s something that no one could possibly need 2 of (a fireplace screen for a house with only one fireplace) then just say Oh, you know how I love this design, or Great minds think alike!
You’d say Wonderful! We can always use more towels in the household! What a thoughtful gift. Thank you so much! or you can say This is perfect, it gives me plenty to use and more for guests when we have them. Never EVER show disappointment in a gift. It’s a gift, not a requirement. If you really want to be careful about getting the same gifts, register. That way, when people pull your registry if someone has already bought you towels, they will know it.
Every time you open any gift, smile and say thank you. I agree with the first answer, that a registry would have avoided the multiple identical gifts, but it’s too late to change that now. Can one ever have too many towels? Why is that a disappointment?
LOL I guess I’m just blown away by your question. You have so many people who love you that you have THREE different showers (!!), you have so many generous friends and family that you even get the same gift again, and you’re disappointed? I don’t want to judge, maybe it’s just worded wrong, but if that’s the case, then I think you have your priorities messed up.
Just smile and say thank you.
Be gracious for what you receive, after all it is a GIFT from someone. You are likely to receive multiples of the same things (towels, blenders, etc). Acting disappointed and making negative comments Oh, more towels… will hurt the gift giver and make you seem terribly ungrateful.
I would be more than pleased if I had 3 bridal showers! If I received too many of one item that I had no way of being able to use, I would simply exchange it later.
Here are a few things you can say:
we can use these for the guest bathroom,
we can use these in the extra bedroom,
I will use these for special occasions,
You always need extra when company comes,
I love to change up the decorations/colors/sheets/towels in the ____(insert room here)
these sheets/comforter will be perfect for spring/summer/winter/fall or
Christmas/valentine’s/Easter/etc
this serving dish will be great for my cookies/cheeseball/casserole
those glasses are perfect for iced tea/lemonade/orange juice(depending on size)
Think about making comments that will personalize each gift so that you will have said those white towels will be great for summer and then you get brown ones you can say These are great for fall! and then green OOOooooo, Christmas!
Now, if you get two exact things like blenders, you could say, you know, you always need a back-up in case one breaks!
You smile and thank them graciously! Say something like Wow, you can never have too many towels or Guest towels!!! or anything that you can think of to appreciate your appreciation for their gift. It really shouldn’t be about you feeling disappointed, but rather think about how they might be feeling – embarassed, disappointed – and putting them at ease. You are very fortunate to have so many people how love you guys and want to give you something to show that they are happy for you both – that is truly a blessing!
This is one of several reasons that gifts should be opened later, in private. But if opening gifts is considered part of the entertainment in your set, then you command your ****** features to express delight as you assure the generous and thoughtful giver that you are very pleased with the gift.
Well, the person whose gift you are opening second (which is the duplicate) is already disappointed that they gave you a gift you already received, so the best thing to do is just smile and say thank you. Most gifts come with a gift receipt, so don’t sweat it.
just say thank you in front of everyone and be nice. if the item is from your registry then you know where they bought it and you don’t need the receipt to return it so don’t ask them for the receipt.
Wow! Now I have a set to use while the first set is in the laundry. Thanks!
OR if it is not towels
It sure looks like great minds think alike! We can use this toaster or odd numbered days and the other toaster on even numbered days.
Whatever you do, don’t try to pretend that you didn’t notice the duplications. Make light of it in such a way as to emphasize the thoughtfulness of both givers.
you don’t have to act fake about receiving a gift. don’t think of it in terms of what you got but the thought and time that went into the gift. you are bound to get some duplicate gifts but alot of times (such as towels) you can never have enough. ALSO unless you get duplicate gifts at the same shower, no one has to know that you already have that item.
I find it really strange that you’re already thinking about this when it hasn’t happened yet. The trick is to just not be disappointed. Hey, if you don’t want those extra towels, just mail them to me.
i got three of the same things at my wedding…i made a joke and then thanked the people that got them for me…..nobodys feeling were hurt